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Tips To Manage With Addiction Treatment Recovery When Your Partner Can’t

Recovering from addiction has long been thought to be a process that is best accomplished as an individual. If two members of a relationship are simultaneously recovering, they were given separate plans and told to focus on themselves and their own recoveries. New research and methods for recovery are emerging that suggest that approaches can include working together for addiction treatment as a couple, not just as individuals. However, if one half of the couple is not as committed to getting and staying clean as the other, huge problems may arise.

If you find yourself one half of an addicted couple, making the decision to get clean becomes twice as difficult. It may be easier to recognize addiction if you can see it in your partner and your partner sees it in you. However, you both supported each other’s addiction, which makes the situation worse than if just one of you had a problem.

One of the biggest roadblocks to recovery from addiction is being around people who are still using. For many addicts, this means maintaining contact with old friends who are users and who encourage their destructive habits. Saying goodbye to these friends is not easy, but it is doable and necessary. If you have to ditch your harmful friends, you may have a backup in the form of family, friends who don’t use, or your partner. When your partner is the bad influence, however, it is much more difficult to cut that person out of your life.

Thankfully, separating or getting a divorce may not be necessary. Many treatment facilities now offer recovery programs specially designed to help the two halves of a couple recover individually and together. While in the past, recovery therapies focused solely on the addicted individual, now addiction specialists realize the importance of involving the whole relationship in recovery.

When both members of a relationship are committed to recovery and work separately as well as together, there is huge potential for success. You and your partner can support and help each other while also working on building your relationship. A major advantage to recovering together is that you each understand what the other is going through. There is risk involved as well, though. If your partner slips up, your chances of doing the same are increased. It is very easy to justify having a setback when you are both doing it, and you are both retreating to past behaviors.

While couples’ recovery has amazing potential to lead you both down the path of wellness and staying clean, if one cannot commit to it, failure is nearly inevitable. If your partner is not ready to recover or he or she tries but fails, you are at great risk for failure as well. In that case, your partner may need more intensive treatment. Together, you may need to consider going your separate ways for a time to pursue recovery independently. Your partner may require an inpatient treatment plan while you are doing well on an outpatient basis. If more serious treatment for your partner helps them to get back on the path, you may be able to come together again later to work on recovery as a couple and to work on rebuilding and strengthening your relationship in a healthy way.

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